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Finding Peace Through Radical Acceptance

We are living in a world where no one is immortal. We are all going to die one day — that’s the reality.

But when it comes to our loved ones, I often feel like the time we have with them is never enough. That’s how it feels for me whenever I lose someone I love.

My Papa was sick with diabetes for years before he died. He passed away suddenly from a heart attack on July 7th, 2021. I still remember the shock when it happened, because just three hours before he passed, he called me to complain about the AC in his room being broken and asked me to find a technician to fix it. I was often his go-to person whenever he needed something.

After Papa died, I struggled deeply — it was so unexpected. But there was one thing that gave me some solace: knowing he wasn’t in pain anymore. For years, he had to endure daily insulin shots, strict diets, endless doctor visits — which was especially hard for him because he loved good food. In those last months, he really suffered, and I hold on to the comfort that he is finally free from that pain.

What helped me through those first months of grief was the support of close friends, journaling, and constantly reminding myself: Papa isn’t suffering anymore.

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My Encounter With Postpartum Depression

“I can’t do this! Someone else would be a better mother for him. He deserves a better mom, not someone like me. I know nothing about being a mom. I don’t know how to do this! He deserves someone better, and that’s not me.”

I remember that afternoon vividly. I was sitting on the couch in my psychiatrist’s office, sobbing uncontrollably. Through tears, I confessed that I wanted to give up my baby for adoption because I truly believed someone else could be a better mom to Aidan. Day after day, my thoughts spiraled, telling me I wasn’t good enough for him. He deserved a “real mom”—someone who could love and care for him properly.

Dr. C listened to me empathetically, as she always did. It was only my third appointment with her after being referred by my GP and midwife. They had grown increasingly concerned about my condition following Aidan’s birth.

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About Radical Acceptance – DBT

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I found this interesting article about Radical Acceptance, and I would like to share it with you.

Radical Acceptance is one of the skills in DBT, and just like any other skill, the more you practice it, the better you will become at it.

Here’s a snippet from the article:

Coping Statements to Foster Radical Acceptance

Here is a list of coping statements you can use when you are feeling as though you can’t accept situations and move on. Keep these handy with you so that you can use them in the moment when you are feeling out of control.

  • When I fight against negative emotions, I only fuel them to grow larger.
  • I can’t change the things that have happened in the past.
  • I am able to accept the present moment exactly as it is.
  • I can get through difficult emotions even if it is hard.
  • I will get through this no matter what.
  • I will survive and this feeling will fade even though this feels painful right now.
  • It’s possible for me to feel anxiety but still manage this situation in an effective way.
  • It’s possible for me to accept what happened and still end up happy.
  • I can choose to make a new path even if I feel bad.
  • When I remain rational I am better able to make good choices and solve problems.
  • It’s better to take the right actions than keep judging or blaming.

I hope this article will help as you’re building your skill to be able to radically accept difficult things in your life:

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-radical-acceptance-5120614

— 🌻 Sophie ❤️

Merry Christmas 🎄🎁 🌟 everyone

Yes I know .. I’m one day late 😑.. it’s the ADHD 😑…

It has been an interesting Christmas 🎄 this year for me. There’s a lot of difficult emotions 😣 that I experienced, and there were times when I was totally overwhelmed 😔.

But no matter how hard and/or confusing things are… I do believe one thing: God is good 😌.

Wishing you all a peaceful Christmas 🎄 ❤️ 🤗

— 🌻 Sophie ❤️

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